The best plan is actually “No Plan.” It consists of two parents who can communicate so well and who are so cooperative that they respect each other’s wishes and time with the kids that there is no need for agreement.
However, I can’t think of just one situation in my 30 years in family law experience where this really succeeded so don’t feel guilty if you’re not one of those great separated parents. You can learn more at Child Custody Action Plan.
A fairly thorough parental strategy for the child care will prevent violent situations, misunderstanding and either or both parents’ desire to play sports. The more detailed the plan of custody, the less room for manipulation. You can always agree to modify the plan, but it is beneficial to have all the details laid out so that if a problem arises, you have to rely on a default plan and you don’t end up back in the court of divorce. I am in the process of reworking a “simple parenting program,” including infinite options. It’s hard to recall any scenario in a published text to work with those possibilities. As a starting point a detailed overview is important.
A successful custody policy would lay out each choice from which parents may select, culminating in a very specific, tailor-made agreement for that family alone.While the forms provided by Family Law Courts and Child Custody Counselors are helpful, they generally contain “boilerplate sentences” that should not be applied across the board. Attorneys, judges and psychologists prefer “boilerplate” forms, because they are already on their screen and are simpler to plan for. Don’t compromise just to make things easier for another person.
Parenting intentions will be forward-looking. Based of their ages and interests children require various schedules. Most commonly, the plaintiffs and the judge follow a common arrangement during a child care or divorce trial. This never anticipates the future and is never revisited at a later point since the parents don’t want to change it and “stick to the divorce or child custody scheme.”
Having a custody plan that anticipates the future can alleviate some of the problem, although it obviously can not tackle any situation that may arise. Don’t settle for a parental program at all. Select and prioritize those choices that better fit the lifestyles of both Parents and Children.